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Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Stay Awake, Stay Uncomfortable, Stay Kind

We are living in a time of meta-shift.  Pick your favorite historian, economist, futurist, or business sage - if you listen closely they are all telling us the same thing. We are navigating as best we can through unprecedented change that has and will continue to impact just about every facet of our lives.  These shifts have obviously occurred before - think Bronze Age, Renaissance, Industrial Revolution, the Axial Times centuries B.C. that gave birth to every modern religion on the planet; these were all meta-shifts.  Yet no one who was alive during those shifts was aware it was happening.  If you lived in Axial Times or the Bronze Age you were totally preoccupied with survival.  The Renaissance lasted over three centuries - and don't forget the average life expectancy was below 40. You definitely did not know that you were living in a meta-shift.

We are, in fact, the first generation of humanity who will not only live through a meta-shift, but have the power to observe it, and ultimately to shape it; if we are Awake.  Being Awake---conscious, aware, observant, mindful---is not always easy.  While the last few years may make us yearn for what "was", we are being called upon to recognize what "is".   Thanksgiving happens to be an incredible time to be Awake, to notice what is really going on in our workplace, our community and our families.  Hopefully, there will be a few quiet moments to recognize and accept that it's not  just the world that is changing; we are changing too.  What we are feeling, our employees are feeling, our neighbors are feeling and our families are feeling. Our workers need much more than a paycheck.  Our neighbors may need help and are too proud to ask.  Our families may need us to just be present; because we have been too busy for too long.  Being Awake long enough to tune into any of these issues - is Uncomfortable.

Two weeks ago we held our annual Best Practices Conference - our industry chairperson, Louis Basile, CEO of Wildflower Bread Company, kept reminding us that during the conference we should be okay with being Uncomfortable.  In fact, he exhorted us as leaders to try to be Uncomfortable every day. The ubiquitous "comfort zone" apparently is part of what got us into our current socio-economic mess - and being Uncomfortable, is what is required if we want to sincerely consider thinking and acting differently than we ever have in our careers. It is Uncomfortable to recognize the stress of our employees, the fact that they may be afraid to tell us what they really think or feel - because they need a job right now.  It is Uncomfortable to ask colleagues and neighbors how they are really doing.  It is Uncomfortable to really listen to our family and friends.  Why do we need a National Listening Day except that in a demanding 24/7 hyper-connected world, we are afraid to slow down long enough to listen - and to be Kind.

I gave a presentation during our conference entitled "The Business Case for Kindness", and suggested that Kindness is a  complex,  grown up way of leading and living our lives,  that  can take courage and risk. It requires a deep level of commitment and responsibility - the kind of commitment and responsibility that  the new marketplace and the new workplace of this Shift Age requires from businesses who want to prosper, communities that want to flourish, and families who want to have Thanksgiving holidays that are about more than getting through the perfect meal.

True Kindness requires us to be Awake, and the willingness to be Uncomfortable. I love this picture from the service event that kicked off our conference.  It reminds me of the power of a community that is Awake, that is willing to be Uncomfortable - miss a meeting, get on a bus with strangers, be a little vulnerable - and to make the commitment to be Kind.  It's the Kindness that transforms lives.

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North Texas Food Bank, November 2, 2010---25,000+ meals packed by People Report & Black Box Intelligence Best Practices Conference Volunteers

We wish everyone a Thanksgiving that is filled with the blessing of understanding that our best lives are ahead, not behind. Stay Awake, Stay Uncomfortable, and Stay Kind to one another.

Joni Thomas Doolin | Post a Comment | Email Article


3 comment(s) for “Stay Awake, Stay Uncomfortable, Stay Kind”

  • Amanda Hite Says:
    Powerful message. Best blog post I've read in a while. Thank you Joni for writing it.
  • Rudy Miick Says:
    Bravo to Louis Basile and the invitation to being uncomfortable! The offering Basile offers each of us is a gift. If we have the guts to take him up on his offer...

    The good news is we're conscious; the bad news is we're conscious! The good news is... when we're conscious we have choices! What a great thanksgiving gift! Thanks Louis!
  • Bill Campion Says:
    This blog is so pertinent as we kick off the new year. Five years ago corporate leaders may have scoffed at the suggestion that kindness should become a priority in the way we conduct our businesses. I am excited about being able to experience a meta-shift and spend time more time being uncomfortable.